The Pressure to Achieve and Please

I wanted this to be an Instagram caption but, I realized that I wasn’t going to articulate myself well in just a caption.

I believe, over the years I’ve been very honest with you and I plan on keeping it that way. So, as you read this post try not to judge but read with the intention to learn something and live a purposeful life.

Just a few days ago, I shared a thread on twitter. I shared it because I felt I had been in a very dark place, And, like every other human being, I decided to share it at a time I felt I was making my way out of it. I’ve only been on this earth for 30 years but I know that the few lessons I’ve learned and situations I have been through can certainly help another individual. It is my purpose to help and pave a way where I feel a way is needed.

I am certainly a person that a few girls look at and assume my life is always “perfect” and I can’t blame anyone because you only see my curated life through a camera lens. I doubt that I have to say this but, no one has a perfect life. What we perceive to be perfect takes a lot of disappointment, doubts, break downs, and strength to keep it all together.

On the 30th of July, I published my first ebook, and as ecstatic as I was, my brain wouldn’t afford me a moment to celebrate. It quickly went into overdrive searching for the next bigger and better thing to achieve.

Instead of taking the time to celebrate my little victory, I slipped into a little dark place where I was searching through every business idea that I have suppressed over the years trying to figure out which one I should tackle next and before I knew it, I was losing my sense of self. I attached my purpose to the temporary high of achieving something. All those congratulatory messages, positive feedback can easily become addictive especially when you haven’t had anyone cheer you on in a while.

I felt like I needed to do something else to experience that happiness high consistently. Dopamine is dangerous lol. Because I had dedicated the month of July to finish my book, I fell off my routine. I lost connection to my inner self. I attached my value and purpose to my book and every other idea that I’ve had and now felt I should execute. This is something they warn you about in business lectures but I just never thought it would happen to me. No, I didn’t think I was more special than other people in business but I just thought I was well in touch with my inner being therefore nothing would ever make me lose that connection with my inner self. haha, what a joke!

The need to keep achieving, to please and feel “valued” and “valuable” can be dangerous.

I decided to take a few days to myself and now that I’m back and ready to make right every part of my life, your girl has never felt better!

Don’t be a prisoner to your followers, family, loved ones, etc. You only have this one life to live and you better live it on your terms.